As I mentioned in my first blog in 2013, similar to a garden, it is good to know what you want to cultivate in your partnership.
When we fall in love, or when a relationship is young, it seems so natural to dream about each other, the future, and the relationship itself. When the relationship gets older and more established, we have a tendency to forget to take the time to dream together. It seems especially hard to remember to do that, when we have young children, run a business together, or when both of us work full time. And yet, it is vital for the evolution of our partnerships that we can dream together. How do we want our partnership to be, what wishes do we have for ourselves and us as a couple? Dreaming together is a source of rejuvenation and guidance for any relationship.
Although we are already weeks into the new year, it is still the perfect moment to do a New Year’s Resolution for your partnership, if you haven’t yet done so. Some people prefer to dream about their partnership with a professional at their side, who facilitates the process and creates a safe space for them. Others are more comfortable to dream only with each other.
Looking back at 2013 and forward into 2014 is a way of celebrating your partnership. Discussing what the highlights were for you as a couple, what were the challenges and how you overcame them can be interesting and enlightening. You may have to acknowledge that you are still struggling with certain issues. I recommend you decide together, what aspects of your relationship you would prefer to let go of and leave behind in 2013, and what you would like to replace them with in 2014. For example, if you notice that you have a high level of stress in your partnership, you may want to replace it with becoming more supportive of each other, including looking for outside support. Dreaming into the future and talking about wishes and hopes you have for your partnership, including those you might never have shared, can be surprising and inspirational. Discovering the dream(s) you both would like to blossom in 2014 can be energizing and fun. It is important to discuss what the first step might be for manifesting that dream, so you both can commit to the process and get started.
A word of advice: If you decide to make this New Year’s Resolution for your partnership without assistance, make sure you have at least one hour of uninterrupted time to yourselves when working on it. Listen to each other with an open heart. Do not get upset if the dreams of your partner are different from yours. Those dreams may come to fit in later in the relationship. Work on what you both are comfortable committing to now. Although I am writing about romantic partnerships, making a New Year’s Resolution is not limited to only intimate ones. It can be fun and beneficial for any relationship, including business partnerships and friendships.
I wish from the bottom of my heart that you will be able to manifest the shared dream(s) you have for your partnership in 2014!
If you would like to schedule a special session around this theme with me, I will offer it to you at a reduced rate until February 12th.